Letting Go: Tough, but Worth it!

A huge part of getting and staying organized is figuring out what stuff needs to leave your space and your life. Letting things go can be incredibly freeing, but incredibly challenging. Making decisions about what to keep and what to let go is tough, but crucial to getting and keeping your spaces manageable. While we may initially dig in with the best of intentions, we can often be derailed when we come across what I call “sentimental clutter.” This is the physical stuff in our lives that has significance to us in a sentimental way, and sometimes carries real emotional baggage. I always suggest to my clients when they’re trying to make decisions about letting go to ask themselves three questions: Read more

Does Your Stuff Make You Happy?

Does your stuff make you happy? Or does it stress you out? How does it affect the quality of your life? Does it enhance it? Or detract from it? I was recently struck by a column written by financial guru Jonathan Clements, who ended his stint a few months ago as a columnist for the Sunday Wall Street Journal. In his last column, he gave his five top pieces of advice for “How to Live a Happier Financial Life.” One piece of advice in particular resonated with me and the work that I do every day. I’d like to share it here:

“Best way to spend money: Experiences.

I believe money can buy happiness, but you have to spend with care. My advice: Use your spare cash for experiences, not possessions. Pay for the family vacation. Go to a concert. Head out to dinner with friends. This will strike many as counterintuitive. Possessions seem appealing, because they have lasting value, while experiences leave us with nothing tangible.

But this is also the reason experiences can bring more happiness: We have not only the event itself, but also the anticipation before and the fond memories after – and those memories aren’t soiled by the messy reality of some object that gets dirty, breaks down and is eventually discarded.”

As I work with clients who are trying to get their spaces organized, many of them because the amount of their possessions and the way they live with them affects their lives in a negative way, and hear story after story of the challenge that downsizing presents for so many (and their children), I have become more firmly convinced that our material possessions have reached the point of suffocation for many of us. We buy and buy, accumulating more and more, and very little of it brings us joy. And what do we do with all of it? Throw it away, take pile after pile to donation sites, and stuff it into our closets, attics, basements and garages. When we run out of room in our living spaces, we pay someone else to store it for us. A recent New York Times article revealed that there is now enough self-storage unit space in this country for every man, woman and child in the United States to stand in the existing units. Think about it. The entire population of the US – about 319 MILLION people – could take up space INSIDE the amount of square footage this country has in storage units. That is, if most of them weren’t crammed with our stuff.

My question is, are we any happier with all this stuff? Is it bringing joy into our lives on a regular basis? When the credit card bill comes, does the stuff we bought make us feel good? And all the stuff we’re inheriting from others, and saving for our children. Box after box, bag after bag of it. Does it all bring back happy memories? Are we getting the warm glow of the happy times we spent with loved ones when we look at it all? (If we ever take it out long enough to actually look at it, or can even find it to begin with.) I find it hard to believe that most of this stuff brings anyone any kind of joy, or stirs any happy memories. I’m not talking about treasuring a few cherished mementos of good times, or displaying and actually using some inherited items from loved ones. I’m talking about boxes and boxes full of stuff, packed away in attics, garages, basements and storage units, overflowing bookshelves, filing cabinets packed with paper, closets crammed so full we can’t find anything, and living spaces so full of THINGS that we can hardly breathe anymore.

The quote in the opening picture was taken from a slide at a NAPO (National Association of Professional Organizers) conference, in a presentation by two interesting guys who call themselves “The Minimalists” – Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. They have committed themselves to living their lives with minimal possessions, and travel the country speaking and writing about the minimalist movement, along with people like Joshua Becker (Becoming Minimalist) and other folks. While not all of us can or want to live a minimalist life, their message, to me, is incredibly valuable. Instead of accumulating stuff, let’s accumulate memories. Let’s spend our time and our money on experiences, including helping others who may not be as fortunate. Let’s stop building and filling storage units and start building lives, one memory at a time. And leave the souvenirs in the gift shop!

One Step at a Time

Looking at your to-do list, do you see an endless list of tasks, or are they really projects? If your answer is, “huh?”, you are not alone. Often, my clients will have lengthy “to-do” lists that contain such big items as, “Do taxes.” Or “Find summer camp for kids.” What these folks haven’t realized is that their lists contain things that are projects, and not tasks. A task is something that can be accomplished in one single step. A project is something that requires multiple, single-step tasks. Read more

How to De-Clutter Your Time

I love this quote from Oprah’s organizing “guru”, author Peter Walsh. Working with clients in their business and home offices and helping them with time management issues, we often come across all kinds of clutter – not necessarily paper, office supplies, or other physical stuff. It’s time clutter – all of those extra commitments that fill up our days and the tasks we take on that make our to-do lists seem never-ending. It’s emotional clutter – the attitudes, thoughts and feelings that have accompanied our life’s journey that we can’t seem to shake.
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Appearances Can be Deceiving…

A number of years ago, in the early days of my organizing career, I went on a consultation to a prospective client’s home. She had expressed to me that she was looking to de-clutter various areas of her home with the intention of eventually downsizing and putting her home on the market. Read more

“To-Do” doesn’t have to mean “Too much to do!”

Tackling your to-do list can feel empowering and productive, or it can feel overwhelming and stressful. Sometimes both emotions can co-exist when considering the tasks on the list. Having an ongoing, running list of things that never seems to get done and which only grows and grows can sap the energy and positive attitude of even the most productive of people. Read more

It’s Smarter to File than to Pile!

Are you struggling with how to set up a filing system for your important papers? Or are you dealing with one that just doesn’t work, making it difficult for you to find what you need when you need it? Or perhaps you’re just looking for ways to fine-tune a system that mostly functions well? To help things along, here are my favorite tips for getting that paperwork under control and keeping it running smoothly and easily. Read more

What’s Your Time Worth?

Every single retailer these days, whether they sell coffee, clothing, or office supplies, wants your email address. And they offer “rewards” in return. And what do those “rewards” get you? An occasional discount, maybe one free cup of coffee every ten cups, and lots and lots of emails. Sometimes several a day from each and every company. In return for a piece of your privacy, and a lot of your time, you may save a few bucks. Maybe. Read more

Decide to Decide!

An often-quoted phrase in the organizing industry is, “clutter is the result of delayed decisions,” from the wisdom of long-time organizing expert Barbara Hemphill (Taming the Paper Tiger.) Making timely decisions is the heart of getting and staying organized, but many of us struggle with even the most simple of decisions on a regular basis. Read more

Neither Rain, Nor Snow, Nor Gloom of Night

What comes almost every day – without fail? Mail! Paper management is an issue in almost everyone’s home these days. In spite of the increase in electronic communication, the amount of “snail mail” that comes into our homes has escalated tremendously in the past ten years. In the office, it’s even worse, since paper comes from both outside and internally. And, it comes six days a week, without fail! Read more